One of the easiest ways to become miserable is by comparing ourselves to others. The simple fact is that no matter what skill or trait we are assessing in ourselves, we will always be able to find someone who does it better. It startled me to hear a statistic that we spend up to ¾ …
Naturally, that is. Research indicates that the average person feels down about 4 days each month. If you have an unusual amount of change going on in your life, aren’t getting enough sleep, or have too much on your plate, it may be even more. Stress seems to be waiting around every corner these days. …
Spring has officially arrived (on the calendar at least) and Daylight Savings Time means more hours of sunshine in the evenings. For me, this inspires “Spring Cleaning” mode, a time to clear out the closets and the cabinet under the bathroom sink (scary!) to make room for change. As I was tossing expired sunscreen and …
We are human. We breathe. We think. We judge. From the kind of coffee we enjoy to the people we like to spend time with, we have our preferences. Judgment tends to get a bad rap even though it has an important place in our lives, assisting with choices and decisions that impact our survival …
Upon initial review, this advice seems counterintuitive to what we have been taught all of our lives. Growing up, we learn that “practice makes perfect.” The Boy Scout’s core motto is to “be prepared.” In our career we have to “pay our dues” and “put our best foot forward.” Although not bad advice, I wonder …
“One doesn’t discover new lands without consenting to lose sight of the shore for a very long time.” Andre Gide When it is time for baby birds to learn to fly, it is common myth that they are shoved out of the security of the cozy nest and soar into the sky. In reality, it …
“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” ~Winston Churchill We always have choices. This is a common message in my blogs because it is SO easy to forget. One of the worst feelings is that of being stuck. Feeling like there aren’t any options. This is …
The human brain has a bias toward negativity. Being able to continuously scan for danger and quickly detect threats has allowed humans to survive as long as we have. Although humans have evolved significantly since the prehistoric days and predators are no longer waiting around every bend, our brains are a bit behind the curve. …
Read moreHumans are wired to be negative (but we can re-wire)
Yes, it’s true. I hear voices in my head. As a Psychologist, that should be concerning. But I am not talking about those kinds of voices. I am talking about the judgmental voice. The one that says to me: You’re not good enough. You will look stupid. What are you thinking??? That is dumb. You’re …
Read moreIf that voice in your head were a friend, how long would the friendship last?
“The days are long, but the years are short.” I have had this quote in my e-mail signature for a REALLY long time, and over the last few years, it has faded into the background and has become just words on the page. Although my head has been able to ovelook these words (pretty easy …